The hero always retreats to his beginnings. The healing power of some solitude to sort things out, the call of the wasteland/forest/”being down home” allows for recharging of the body, the mind. the spirit.
You see this in ancient literature, like in the Arthurian legends, where Lancelot, who showed up originally from the deep woods, disappears to the deep woods to bolster himself up after things get hairy.
You see similar themes in European and American literature, as well as in popular literature. There are plenty of times where Superman retreats to his secret hideaway for a while, before coming back into the fray, stronger in resolve and in ability than ever before.
Is this part of the male psyche? This Robert Bly ideal of the male ego, this retreat-and-recreation makes perfect sense to men. If you can retreat to the mountain-top, the deep wood, the secret hideaway… preferably the place where you have spent a lot of time doing both nothing and everything, you can space things out without outside interference. It’s usually a place where you found affinities for things that led you to needed skill sets, a place where you might have developed many of your aptitudes.
We see it in literature, and in movies where the hero is someone that we –as men– identify with. Somehow, it’s against the rules in a lot of situations to break away, sort things out, bolster our selves, ego included. Ladies, I’m sorry to tell you, but we do not get anything out of talking about it. It works for you, but not for guys.
You can’t become an epic hero thatta way.